Burnout: searching the gold at the bottom of the pit
How it started
About a year ago, I got stuck at work. I was unhappy with what I was doing and seemed to have come to a standstill. I fruitlessly tried to go forward. This varied from not wanting to get out of bed in the morning to crying because I had to go to work. I asked my manager whether it would be possible to find me a coach. I had to choose one from my employer’s files, but I did not want to. I turned to the internet to find a coach and there I found Karin’s picture. It inspired my to contact her and the first appointment was quickly made.
Karin holds up a mirror
Because of my conversations with Karin, I kept feeling better and better. I am a thinker and an analyst and together with Karin I learned to find more balance between my head, heart and sense. The beautiful thing about the conversations I had with her is the mirror she held up to me. It turned out to reflect my feelings instead of showing only the surface. I could not hide and that is something I am normally very good at. By focusing a lot on my feelings I have really learned to listen to them and I keep getting better at acting accordingly. It is an ongoing process and I have come even further since last year.
Letting go and staying close to myself
We have talked extensively about doing things you are good at and that make you happy. ‘Standing in your own strength’ is an expression I will use for the rest of my life. I have learned to indicate what makes me happy and what I am good at and to ignore what other people think of that. The most important thing is that I am happy with myself and with what I do. If I am able to use this knowledge in my everyday performance, I will only do things that make me happy. The conversations I had with Karin taught me the value of staying closer to myself than I was used to. In short: close to my head, heart and sense! I learned to let go to and stand in my own strength.